Integrity With Self

 

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I find in my work, as a Life Coach that loss is something that almost everyone goes through.

Loss is very real and not always fun even when you know there is life and life abundantly on the other side.  I am discovering that life is not about winning but enjoying what you have already won.

A lesson I have only learned through perceived loss and then the realization if I let it go it is no longer loss but a lesson.

This experience has been an adventure.  I have meet many adversaries on the way some of them have been without but I hate to admit most of them have been within. The Spirit has helped me to navigate through the dark days. It is comforting to know that I have a navigation system within. I am constantly resetting my compass to success as I learn that there are no failures in life as long as you are a lifetime learner.

I will learn what I need from this destination on my journey. I know life will not stop here even if it might feel that way in the moment. I will keep going, each experience will add to my life. I am learning to let people handle their own emotions and feelings. I am only responsible for how I handle myself.

This has been a tough lesson. I am choosing to be open to other perspectives without judgment. There are times other will not understand who you are. They will judge your position or try to convince you of their superior position or knowledge of where they think you should be. I know this because I have taken that stance my self.

It is true that we all can learn so much from one another, but I have learned to be entangled with any person in your life means death to your own ability to hear from God.

I think the clinical name for it is co-dependent.

To live in integrity with my self I have had to step away from every controlling or co-dependent relationship.

I am learning to help people in a whole new way, to ask questions that causes them to seek the answers that come from the Holy Spirit and not play that role myself. There has been so many times when I really thought I knew what was going on in someone else only to learn that that was what I needed to look at in myself or perhaps a judgment I had come to about another.

I am learning to tread this path carefully, not to get entangled in another person’s stuff or believe I have the answers for everyone.

Its been challenging for I do believe that I can come along side those I am called to and support them as they seek to hear from their own internal guide. It has been an interesting journey to this point and there have been times I have crossed the line into areas I am now seeing I did not belong.

When I left my marriage 7 years ago I went through a period of pain and grief. It caused me to look deep into my heart and examine my motives.

I had to come to peace with the women I was in the past to enter into the new season I was walking into. I have begun to experience a freedom I had only dreamed about. I have begun to honor and cherish the women I was created to be. Strength and wisdom have arisen in me and as they have I am learning to embrace them. When you awaken to your authentic self not everyone will appreciate it. I have grieved over the judgments that have been thrown at me and cringed over how other people have perceived my strengths. All of this has helped me to learn to live in the no judgment zone, as I have let go of what I perceived others thought of me. Well-meaning statements and opinions have caused me to search for truth. Truth does not always come quickly; sometimes truth exposes lies that you believe about your self. In that moment you get to decide what you are going to believe. Perhaps your inner beliefs have contributed to the misunderstanding others have about you. I am learning you don’t have to tell them they are wrong. You only need to change what you believe.

My desire is to live my life honestly I have to admit even as I say it I struggle to get out of my own way.

That is where my commitment to life in the Spirit comes in. My spirit is at peace with the Spirit of God. When I am in alignment with His Spirit I may not know where I am going but I know whom I am going with and this is all I need. Writing has helped me connect to those moments. I pray one day that I will have no days that I travel to the land of doubt and fear, until that day I will keep grabbing the hand of my Jesus as he pulls me out of the quick sands of my fears and doubt.

I would love feed back from you, leave a message. How has your journey through grief or unexpected circumstances changed you?

 

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